Why Don’t I Trust Myself to Make Decisions? How to Reclaim Self-Confidence

You know that feeling.
You stand before a decision—and your whole body tenses.
Your chest tightens.
Your stomach knots.
Your breath gets shallow.

And then come the voices:
"I'll mess it up again."

"I can’t trust myself."

"If I choose wrong, everything will fall apart."

Underneath it all: shame, fear, regret.
Not because you are broken.
Because somewhere along the way, you learned survival meant silencing your own wisdom.

You’re not crazy.
You’re not defective.
You’ve been protecting something sacred for a long time.

But if you're reading this with a lump in your throat, you already know:
You’re longing for something more than staying stuck.

Maybe someone important to you laughed when you tried to follow your instincts.
Maybe life slammed you sideways when you least expected it.
Maybe safety meant second-guessing every desire you had.

Whatever the story, the pattern is the same:
When the moment comes to trust yourself—you freeze.
You hesitate.
You shrink.

Not because you're weak.
Because you survived.

Staying stuck can feel safer than risking another wrong turn.
But it’s like sitting in a burning house because the doorknob looks too dangerous to touch.

You miss out on dreams that were meant for you.
You start to believe lies about your worth.
You waste precious years circling fears you were meant to outgrow.

Meanwhile, deep inside:
There’s more for me than this."

It’s not too late.
It never has been

Threshold moments rarely come quietly.
They show up as fire, restlessness, grief, or fierce tenderness.

Threshold moments sound like:
"I’m scared to move... but it’s scarier not to."
"I don’t know how... but I can’t stay here anymore."

If reading this stirs something in your gut—you’re already at the door.

And you don’t have to cross it alone.